A common statement that is often told to us during our not so good times is that ‘whatever happens;happens for the good’. While this statement has its share of believers, there are others, the self-proclaimed “practical” people who feel it is just a way of giving oneself a false hope and to keep them optimistic. Even though i am one of the believers of this statement, i am not here to force my readers into believing it. This post is just to present my readers with my views as to why i believe it.
Initially, like others i too was not a follower of this belief. In fact i used to laugh at the daily soaps, when during any sort of problems the characters used to console each other with this same point that everything would be fine and that whatever happens, it is for the good. I quite never understood the logic behind this statement and the way people actually used to believe it. But as it is said, until you practically experience the same fate, you probably never realize the significance of the fact.
I have had quite a lot of experiences, a few of my own and a few of my other friends.
There was this girl with whom I developed acquaintance and ultimately became very close and good friends with. As much as I feel ridiculous about it now, she had begun to occupy my mind for a lot of time. Not that she was a bad person, but she would come off as a moody, desiring for true love but lusting for money kind of girl. I would be there for her whenever she needed and more importantly I realized that I used to behave and act the way she would want me to, in short basically I became a doormat for her. Ultimately, I confessed my love for her, which of course was not a successful attempt as she said she never expected that and was surprised. Even though it took off the burden off my chest of confessing what i felt about her, I at first felt really depressed and sad as I considered myself to be guilty of spoiling a friendship. We would still talk, but that spark just won’t be there. The conversations turned out to be more of formalities than any relation making it happen. Time passed, and my depression definitely decreased but my insecurity developed. But in the midst of all this, I began being myself, keeping myself busy, talking to different people and friends.
Not that she was off my mind completely, but I began this her- memories- should- not- ruin you- program. I stopped talking to her for almost a month and focused on different things and while it took me around 3-4 months to get over and I still am, the situation as it stands today is that I don’t have any insecurities regarding her and I made myself a realization. What was the realization? It was that while I felt it was love, I definitely don’t think so now as I just was not myself when I was with her. I would be rather be conscious as to how she would react to whatever i say or do than simply be myself. Secondly, she had begun occupying me to an extent that I would hardly bother about friends and colleagues and won’t prioritize them at all. Now that i was off her thoughts, i realized and opened to my friends and that felt really good. And then it struck me, that all this while it was a lesson that i was learning and that I had finally learned it. While I was wondering initially as to what is so good about the thing that I made situations worse between me and her due to my confession, I now realize that though it was a hard way to face it, it was a great way nonetheless to move on and learn my lesson. I got humbled. Whatever happened was for my own good and I am lucky to have realized it.
Another instance would be of one of my friends’ grandfather. My friend was very close with his grandfather, but lately his grandpa wouldn’t be keeping well. While I don’t know the exact details of his illness, it ultimately led to his death. It was a doleful atmosphere and obviously nothing good seemed to be coming out of it. But on confrontation with the doctors we realized that this illness was just bringing him unbearable pain from time to time and that his death was a very peaceful one considering his situation. Now, definitely his grandfather’s death brought no good news for them but it was the best thing that could happen to him at that moment. Many a times, situations happen to be good keeping in mind the other person and me and my friend are lucky to have realized it.
So well, these and many more instances have made me believe that while not everything you go through in life seems good to you,t here is definitely something good in store for you or even better that it is already happening to you. It is all about patience along with your good deeds and someday you would realize that whatever happens, happens for the good.