A common statement that is often told to us during our not so good times is that ‘whatever happens;happens for the good’. While this statement has its share of believers, there are others, the self-proclaimed “practical” people who feel it is just a way of giving oneself a false hope and to keep them optimistic. Even though i am one of the believers of this statement, i am not here to force my readers into believing it. This post is just to present my readers with my views as to why i believe it.
Initially, like others i too was not a follower of this belief. In fact i used to laugh at the daily soaps, when during any sort of problems the characters used to console each other with this same point that everything would be fine and that whatever happens, it is for the good. I quite never understood the logic behind this statement and the way people actually used to believe it. But as it is said, until you practically experience the same fate, you probably never realize the significance of the fact.
I have had quite a lot of experiences, a few of my own and a few of my other friends.
There was this girl with whom I developed acquaintance and ultimately became very close and good friends with. As much as I feel ridiculous about it now, she had begun to occupy my mind for a lot of time. Not that she was a bad person, but she would come off as a moody, desiring for true love but lusting for money kind of girl. I would be there for her whenever she needed and more importantly I realized that I used to behave and act the way she would want me to, in short basically I became a doormat for her. Ultimately, I confessed my love for her, which of course was not a successful attempt as she said she never expected that and was surprised. Even though it took off the burden off my chest of confessing what i felt about her, I at first felt really depressed and sad as I considered myself to be guilty of spoiling a friendship. We would still talk, but that spark just won’t be there. The conversations turned out to be more of formalities than any relation making it happen. Time passed, and my depression definitely decreased but my insecurity developed. But in the midst of all this, I began being myself, keeping myself busy, talking to different people and friends.
Not that she was off my mind completely, but I began this her- memories- should- not- ruin you- program. I stopped talking to her for almost a month and focused on different things and while it took me around 3-4 months to get over and I still am, the situation as it stands today is that I don’t have any insecurities regarding her and I made myself a realization. What was the realization? It was that while I felt it was love, I definitely don’t think so now as I just was not myself when I was with her. I would be rather be conscious as to how she would react to whatever i say or do than simply be myself. Secondly, she had begun occupying me to an extent that I would hardly bother about friends and colleagues and won’t prioritize them at all. Now that i was off her thoughts, i realized and opened to my friends and that felt really good. And then it struck me, that all this while it was a lesson that i was learning and that I had finally learned it. While I was wondering initially as to what is so good about the thing that I made situations worse between me and her due to my confession, I now realize that though it was a hard way to face it, it was a great way nonetheless to move on and learn my lesson. I got humbled. Whatever happened was for my own good and I am lucky to have realized it.
Another instance would be of one of my friends’ grandfather. My friend was very close with his grandfather, but lately his grandpa wouldn’t be keeping well. While I don’t know the exact details of his illness, it ultimately led to his death. It was a doleful atmosphere and obviously nothing good seemed to be coming out of it. But on confrontation with the doctors we realized that this illness was just bringing him unbearable pain from time to time and that his death was a very peaceful one considering his situation. Now, definitely his grandfather’s death brought no good news for them but it was the best thing that could happen to him at that moment. Many a times, situations happen to be good keeping in mind the other person and me and my friend are lucky to have realized it.
So well, these and many more instances have made me believe that while not everything you go through in life seems good to you,t here is definitely something good in store for you or even better that it is already happening to you. It is all about patience along with your good deeds and someday you would realize that whatever happens, happens for the good.
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Proud of you, the way you learned these vital life at this age, many don’t. You went through an uneasy time, but came out of it with flying colours. You decided to share that with people, that is even more commendable, for it would prompt more people to learn and do better in life.
Cheers! 🙂
Posted by yajuarya | April 28, 2012, 15:41Yes, it really helped me and i felt if this could help out anyone out here in any way, then i should share this!
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 28, 2012, 20:12yeah vinayak ,, i read this whole blog.. it took me some time, but it was nice the way you wrote this whole experience, about you falling for a girl and coming to this realization .. yes it is true indeed, whatever happens happens for good…. take care
Posted by rishabh srivastava | May 1, 2012, 00:38yup bro, thanks for your appreciation. Take care.
Posted by vinayakchandra | May 1, 2012, 00:39Yeh Pyaar bhi dangerous cheez hoti hai…. anyways good luck for your blogging journey
Posted by arjunkr92 | April 28, 2012, 20:14Yeah bro, anyhow thanks for your luck 🙂
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 28, 2012, 20:17Very good spirit man, I really admire your ability to look past the grim moments and identify the positive signs. Carry on with the optimistic approach..
Posted by Shikhar | April 28, 2012, 21:02Yes, that is the purpose of life, to be able to rise above negative energy and gain back your confidence and esteem.
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 28, 2012, 21:09Very good my Friend …
Posted by dhaivatraval | April 28, 2012, 21:55Thanks bro 🙂
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 29, 2012, 15:30Nicely written. Keep it up. All the best. happy Blogging. 🙂
Posted by Arka | April 28, 2012, 22:26Yup sure. Thanks a lot.
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 29, 2012, 15:31Superb Article, even I have had so many experiences in my life where I have felt gutted whenever something went wrong for me only later did I realize that it was a blessing in disguise for me. Keep blogging brother, you are really good in it 🙂
Posted by Malay Samant | April 28, 2012, 23:34Yeah, Life demands patience and it will all go smooth.
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 29, 2012, 15:31Nicely written for first post…
Keep more posts coming and keep me informed…
Best luck…
Posted by Hardik | April 29, 2012, 09:59Thanks, yup you will be kept informed. thanks 🙂
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 29, 2012, 15:32Very GOOD article covering this important part of life.
Nature always do good justice with every entity of the world
Posted by Jeetu Singh | April 29, 2012, 12:29Yes, life is good if we believe it is good. Thanks.
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 29, 2012, 15:32Well, I ain’t a believer of the adage..whatever happens, happens for the good.. Nevertheless, if it’s worked for u..what more can one want. Keep writing 🙂
Posted by Kiran | April 29, 2012, 19:37That is fine as there are certain people who dont follow this belief. Thanks for your comment, nonetheless 🙂
Posted by vinayakchandra | April 29, 2012, 19:57continue, blogging. its a good way to take out ones frustration and share with your friends, where they can respond and help you out when needed… I liked this post .. i ll watch for this space for more of your articles . 🙂
Posted by rishabh srivastava | May 1, 2012, 00:40Yup sure, you can follow my blog by clicking on the follow button available on the right side on the top. Will keep coming up with more posts in the near future
Posted by vinayakchandra | May 1, 2012, 00:43really nice…n i m glad dat u finally recovered from ur “illness”…n actually its true yaar…wtever happens,happens for a reason…its seems bad but brings u something good which u realise later…n ya…now dat u hav started continue dis work of urs..:)
Posted by parul agarwal | May 1, 2012, 14:39Yeah Parul, and thanks to you for helping me out as well. But well there are more such instances where you realize the importance or the goodness of it later on, this was just a brief. And yeah, i am gonna continue this work, hope to see you around here as well. Thanks once again 🙂
Posted by vinayakchandra | May 1, 2012, 14:43Nicely written 🙂
Sorry for the late reply L*
But very good.. now u know what all things u are expert in.. Start ryting ur own book 😛
Posted by Amrin | May 1, 2012, 21:02Thanks amrin and that is ok. Yeah sure one day i will surely write..thanks for your encouragement 😛
Posted by vinayakchandra | May 1, 2012, 21:03This article teaches a lot…
great job vinayak !
Very informative and well written.
All the best for your blogging
journey 🙂
Posted by Deepjaiswal | May 1, 2012, 22:41thanks a lot deep. Will surely keep writing and keep you informed.
Posted by vinayakchandra | May 1, 2012, 22:43Nice article …..For your first example, you are victim of a word EXPECTATION which most us do. You expected her to reply but she didn’t, so you got yourself tied up by your own created chain or rope (which is EXPECTATION). You are following the rules of loving a person that you might have read or seen or heard somewhere. So in your mind a positive outcome of loving a person is to get love from him/her the same as you do. I know i sound like a philosopher but loving yourself should be the first step if you want to love someone else. So first try to love yourself as much as you can and then if you feel you want more love then go for others because if others dump you will at least have yourself to share your love. 🙂
Now my view on your whole article: ALMIGHTY has created you. He will take of you in his own way…try to leave it him. Most of the times, you will find that that ultimately his way is correct.
Posted by Rohit Singh Arya | May 9, 2012, 12:16I agree with your points. But it was not the expectation that led to my disappointment here. I was mentally prepared for the outcome but what made me disappointed was the fact that maybe i ruined the friendship coz of that stuff. Here no one basically got dumped or anything. While later i realized it was all for my own good. And a very nice point made, loving yourself is as significant if not more than loving the other person.
Thanks for commenting. I’m overwhelmed 🙂
Posted by vinayakchandra | May 9, 2012, 17:36